OK guys, I actually need your help/advice right now, so get ready. Um…where to begin? Fuck it, let’s just say that rare as it is, sometimes men do things that I can’t figure out, I overthink things, and I turn into a fucking girl about it. I hate that. But like it or not, this just happens to be one of those times. So…some quick background info:
About 2 years ago I went on a few dates with this guy. It never got serious, the calls and dates between both of us were sporadic at best, and eventually things petered out. Honestly, the most that happened between us was that I joined this guy’s fantasy baseball league, OK? But I actually liked him; I thought he was adorable. BUT, I never got a real serious vibe from him so I never really pushed things (I like being the one pursued, what can I say).
Anyway, after baseball season ended, we stopped communicating altogether and that was that – no big deal. That was about a year and a half ago. THEN, today – out of fucking nowhere – I get an email. No, not from Fantasy Guy – that will be his nickname for now – but from Friendster. Now, I know nothing about Friendster, had never been on their Web site before today, and have very little to go on here, but the gist of the email was that Fantasy Guy was inviting me to join Friendster and his network of friends.
Immediately I emailed Christine and told her what was going on – I had to remind her who Fantasy Guy was it had been so long. I then asked HER to tell ME what the fuck was going on. (Note: Christine is normally great at figuring stuff out.)
She told me to go on Friendster and check to see how long he’s been a member. Apparently, I needed to figure out if this was a ‘he just joined and he submitted the names and emails of everyone in his address book’ thing, or is this was a ‘he’s been thinking about me and this is his way of making contact’ sort of thing.
SO, I went onto Friendster. He’s been a member since 2003, he has 18 people in his “network” or friends, and there are no recent additions to the group.
Christine now has nothing. Besides saying this is probably a passive-aggressive way of getting in touch – he obviously has my email, why not email me directly if he wants to talk? – she still can’t tell me what he might be thinking. Does he want to give us a second chance to get to know each other better? Is this just a weird blip on the radar and it means nothing? What could possess him to think of me NOW anyway? And what exactly does he want me to do here? Do I join? Do I email him and ask? Did he invite me by accident? Agh!
Look what I’ve been reduced to. I’m overthinking and analyzing this to death, and I’m pissing myself off. I AM NOT THAT GIRL!!!!!!!! Shit, this is what this guy does to me, and I do not know why. This is why I was almost happy when nothing came of us.
People, help me and tell me what’s going on/what I should do – I’m clearly in no shape to be figuring this out on my own.